When you are in a serious relationship, there are hundred of ways for you to get hurt. However, you usually trust your partner to do everything in their power not to hurt you. Being in a serious relationship is basically letting someone else hold on to your heart, and this isn’t always an easy thing to do. There are many reasons why someone would want a casual relationship over a serious one, but the main one is usually that you have no chances of getting hurt. When you have been with the same person for years, it is easy to stop thinking about them as someone with needs. But in the end, they are still human and want to have sex. Many serious relationships fail because partners stop having sex on the regular, and sometimes, your partner can end up cheating on you because they lack the attention. Maybe they feel like your work too much, maybe they’re just bored, and need to validate themselves.
So you and your partner have been drifting apart for some time now, but you still love eachother very much. It’s a different type of love, however, and you find yourself wishing things could go back to the beginning. One day, you start to feel like your partner is acting a little weird, and so you decide to snoop. After your investigation, you find out that your lover has made a profile on AdultFriendFinder or any other affair dating website, and when you confront them about it, they break down and admit to having had affair. After talking it through, they tell you that it was their first time having an affair and that they only went to an online dating website because they felt like they needed to validate themselves. In other words, they wanted to feel wanted.
After talking it through and making the decision to try and work things out. All you can do is think about having a retaliation affair. Sure, you know it isn’t wise, but you still can’t shake the image of someone having sex with your woman, and all you want to do is join an online dating platform, find a local woman, have a retaliation affair, and then rub it in your partner’s face. If you’re asking yourself if you should have a retaliation affair, then maybe you’re not as ‘over it’ as you believed yourself to be. In truth, having a retaliation affair is only fair, but it might cause even more strain on your relationship. In the end you have to ask yourself which one you want more, to get even or save your relationship? If you decide that you want to have a retaliation affair, your partner isn’t really in the right position to stop you. If she can’t get over the fact that you want to have sex with someone else to get even, then you shouldn’t have to get over the fact that she had sex with someone to have pleasure. Still, think long and hard before having a retaliation affair, because it can damage the hope you have left.
If you and your partner are still together after one of you had an affair, this means that you really want to be together. Coping with your lover’s affair can be extremely difficult, and sometimes all you really need is some professional advice. Going to couples counselling might really help you and your partner talk things through and really begin to look past everything and start fresh. Couples counselling will make you see each other in a different light, and help you understand why your partner cheated in the first place. If you’re still unable to cope with your lover’s affair after seeking the help of a couples counsellor, then maybe you need to break it off for a bit and see where you stand.
If couples counselling worked like a charm, and you and your lover have decided to give love another try, you might be asking yourself how to move forwards. Moving forwards after your partner’s affair can be very difficult. But if you still love each other it will be worth it. The main thing you need to do is learn how to trust each other again, because without trust there is no relationship. Once you feel like you can really trust them again, you will stop thinking that it will happen again and you can move forward. Getting cheated on is not an easy thing to get over, and some people even realise months after that they will never be able to trust their partner ever again. Despite all the couples counselling and hard work, you might realise that your relationship is broken beyond repair. If this is the case, then it might be best to take some time apart and reevaluate how you feel.