Moving on after getting cheated on is very hard to do, especially when you’re still angry at your partner for treating you the way he did. Devoting you time to someone who was playing you from the beginning is like being slapped in the face, so obviously you aren’t going to get over it within a couple days. After my breakup, I became so angry that I began dreaming about my ex and the different ways I would get back at him if I had the chance. Will would leave me waking up angry and frustrated and after a few weeks, I felt like I was getting nowhere. So I informed myself on how to get over a cheater and found out that forgiving him for cheating was actually recommended for moving on. I didn’t want to call him at first, because I hadn’t spoken to him since the breakup, but I knew that forgiving him for cheating was my only chance of moving on and getting rid of my anger reservoirs.
When I called my ex-boyfriend, he was very surprised to hear from me, and when I heard his voice I was surprised to find out that I didn’t hate him. I told him that I was calling because I didn’t want to carry my anger on my sleeve anymore and that I wanted him to know that I forgave him for cheating on me and didn’t have any bad feelings towards him. We ended up speaking for half an hour and got a bunch of things off our chests, by the end of it I felt so light that I thought I would hit the ceiling. A couple days after the phone call, I began to feel a lot better and was so happy that I’d forgiven him for cheating and was finally moving on.
Once I started moving on after cheating, I joined an online dating platform and started chatting with locals from Oshawa. I wasn’t really looking to meet anyone but I just wanted to start chatting with people to get out of my shell. Eventually, I started chatting with someone who lived close by to me in Oshawa, and we met up for a coffee. We didn’t end up clicking or seeing each other again but I was relieved to feel like I was moving on after cheating and wouldn’t be carrying my anger into my future relationships.
When dealing with a cheater, it is important to forgive but never forget. Now that I had been cheated on I knew what the common signs of cheating looked like and I would never forget how worthless I felt when I found out that my relationship had been a lie. Forgiveness after cheating is highly recommended, but it is also wise to hold onto your memories and learn from them.
If your girlfriend cheated on you and you want to forgive her for it, my only advice is to make sure your trust wasn’t lost amidst the cheating. If you do not trust your girlfriend anymore your relationship will be over before you know it.